Your friends have a huge influence on who you are as a person. They influence the things you like, the places you go, and what you do. As we spend time with others we are exposed to their thoughts, ideas, and actions – and it is very easy to follow along, especially if you are placed under pressure to do so. There is a thin line between peer pressure and a group mentality that causes people to act as part of a mob rather than thinking for themselves. However, while peer pressure often gets a bad reputation, it can actually be a good thing.
But it all depends who your peers are. Surround yourself with positive people and you will begin to think like them too, however, if your circle of friends has a tendency to find trouble then you may actually be better off distancing yourself! Obviously don’t just drop friends or turn your back on people when times are tough, but if they begin to lead you down a self-destructive path then it may be better that you distance yourself from them.
Knowing who you are as a person is all part of growing up and maturing, and ultimately people will respect you more if you are your own person, rather than the type to follow blindly along.
If you can find a like-minded friend who can also stand up against bad ideas then this will make your job easier. If this is difficult for you, you may want to consider distancing yourself from the most negative elements, firmly saying ‘no’ and just walking away may be enough, but if things get really tough you may need to find some outside help.
However, peer pressure needn’t always be a bad thing. Groups of friends can pressure each-other to make the right choices rather than the wrong ones – offering advice and support in times of need. However, peer pressure needn’t always be a bad thing. Groups of friends can pressure each-other to make the right choices rather than the wrong ones – offering advice and support in times of need.
If all your friends are looking at the university route, chances are you may wish to do the same. If this is right for you then great, you can compare information about universities and your courses. However, it is important that you don’t let your peers detract from making your own choices – university is not suited to everyone, and you may be better off looking for other options like an apprenticeship.
Alternatively, some of your friends may opt to go straight into work, others may be better suited to an apprenticeship, while you may wish to head out on a gap year. It is about knowing what is best for you. You can remain friends even if you are off doing different things – coming back together to meet up as you all go on your own ways.
Remember, you become like the people you spend most time with – so choose wisely, and get yourself some positive peer pressure!
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